People usually have this idea about everything, from everything they use to everybody they see. Mostly nobody cares about what other person is all about. When we see someone, we tend to form an image of that person on behalf of how we see them, rather what that person is really about and this is where all the troubles start.

We create an idea about those particular people, and when we see some of those behavior doesn’t align with how we image them, we immediately start to burst out. You know the biggest problem is, that we all think that our images about those people are the correct one, well we cannot blame ourselves either, because this is how our brain works, we need to make decisions, quick decisions about everything around us, to make the survival possible, so I would say that forming images of people we meet are our basic instinct.

If you think this way, sometimes their behavior might not be even wrong, but you tend to think it is wrong because you imaged in a way that behavior is wrong. It has nothing to do with reality. It is simply your mind making things up, something like this caused lot of pain for a lot of people, no? We create images of our loved ones, friends, and families and when that image doesn’t seem to fit the situations we feel bad, terrible and even upset.

Well, the good news is, that it can be avoided.

Some true friends, doesn’t create images on behalf of themselves, they tend to accept who his friends are, and they seem to do ok and continue to stay ok because none of them created any images of those personalities. Therefore, they were able to stay with calm and deal with whatever their friends do. Perhaps this has to do with the mind too. In our social conductivity, perhaps love and families perhaps take more serious responsibilities, therefore, more of the need for this “image creation”, perhaps which increases the need for dependency too, hence the headache when the image shatters.

If you ask me, I would say, never judge people, you can have images of them, but make sure that doesn’t go so deep, that make you think that your image is the right one. You may never know what they do and how they do or what is going on their life.

When you seize the ability to judge others, that’s when you realize you have the control over your mind.